Milspouse Friday Fill In

1. Do you think civilians, in general, understand the meaning of Memorial Day?
I think many may have an idea of what it is, but I think the true meaning of it is often buried in bbqs, sales, and the unofficial beginning of summer. We all need to really remember the true reason behind Memorial Day: to remember the men/women who have given the ultimate sacrifice in fighting for our freedom over the years.
Thank you to all the military out there that are currently fighting for our country, giving up your time, your family, and some your lives so we can be free.
Thank you to my husband too who is currently serving his 3rd deployment overseas. We love you and miss you so much.

2. What are your plans for the Memorial Day Weekend?
There is a 100 mile yard sale that starts up today and goes all weekend. I am so excited to go out looking!

3. What skill/talent do you wish you had?

I wish I could sew...that's something I have on my list this summer.

4. Which came first: the chicken or the egg?

The chicken...but then how did the chicken get here unless it came from an egg, but how would an egg get here? It had to have been layed from a hen...i'm still going with the chicken ;)

5. What is the best thing about your post (base)? The worst?

I love that our base is so big and there is so much you can do on it. All the stores, the Nex, the commissary, movie theaters, bowling alley, etc. The worst is that it is SO big that our military housing is located off base since it couldn't possibly host all the families. I really miss living on the actual base. For some reason I always felt safer.

Milspouse Friday Fill-in

1. What is one of the things you always do special when your husband returns from a deployment?
As soon as I pick him up from the pier we go home to change his clothes and rest for a bit, but than we always go to lunch/supper at Cheesecake Factory. It's a tradition. We've done it for the last 3 deployments now. We just spend as much family time together at home, going to the park, just low key.

2. What do you do to help your spouse and/or yourself re-adjust after a deployment or long separation?
I let him do his own thing for awhile since he is use to it being alone on the boat for 6 months and if he does something different than what i've been doing I will just let it go.

3. Are you a crazy coupon clipper (I’m becoming one, so share your secrets with me)?
Not really. I try to clip some coupons that work for me, but I don't go out of my way to get things I'm not going to need that week just because they're on sale.

4. What’s your most treasured memory of you and your spouse (not counting your wedding – that’s a given)?
Maybe moving out to VA right after we were married. We were finally married and on our own, living in a new place just the two of us. It's been awesome having new adventures just us as a family.

5. If you could live anywhere overseas, what would you pick and why?
Probably Italy or Japan

Milspouse Fillin

Which was the best day of your life- Wedding day or Homecoming day?
Our wedding day was great, but the Homecoming was awesome! 6.5 months and I was beyond ready to get ahold of my husband again! It was just relief when I was back in his arms again.


Were you a part of the joining the military question or did you sign up for the relationship when your man was already in the military?
We dated all throughout High School, but than took a break for a few months and that is when he joined the Navy and left for bootcamp. We got back together when he was in Cschool so technically I came back into his life after he joined the military.


What is your favorite Disney movie and why?
I LOVE all Disney movies, but if I had to pick probably Little Mermaid, Beauty & the Beast, The Incredibles, etc.

What is your favorite family activity to do on the weekends?
We enjoy anything outside. The zoo, wild animal park, playgrounds, fishing, walks, just playing outside. We just want to be together and outside!

Where do you secretly wish you could be stationed with you/your SO's line of work (realistically speaking, not everyone can be stationed on NAS Fiji)?
I would love to go to Italy or Japan

You might be a Milspouse if...

You might be a Military Spouse if...


"... you have a better support network online while your spouse is deployed than you do with your own family."

"...you refer to your friends as "my civilian friend so & so" or "my military friend so & so" during conversations. This can confuse civilians when you live in a non-military community

"...majority of your laundry consists of camo, blue shirts, and black socks. (It seems like a never ending supply.)"

"...you can pack and unpack a house within a couple of days. Like a pro!"

"... you know you can never make plans ahead of time, because the Navy always finds ways to change them."

"... getting a power of attorney is a regular occurrence for you."

"... if your kids are all born in different states."

"... if you get a little embarrassed when your kids call anyone in a uniform "daddy", particularly in an exchange or commissary."

"... you don't flinch when a man with a gun asks for your ID at the grocery store!"

"... you know that a month long separation is short, no matter what anyone says."

"... you own at least one "I Love My Sailor" t-shirt, bumper sticker, purse or anything camouflaged!"

"... you get bored after living in one place more than a year."

"... you use so many acronyms when talking about your day that those outside of the military community have no idea what you are saying."

"... you might be a MilSpouse if you read all of the homecoming banners and smile over each one, all the while thinking "What will my banner say?"

"... you take your computer to bed each night with hopes that you might catch your husband online should he get on SKYPE, Facebook, messenger, etc."

"...you can unpack a house in less than a week."

"... you accidentally start to put down your spouse's SSN when filling out documents about yourself."

"... you save voicemails from your spouse, so you can hear his/her voice any time you think of them."

"... your hubby is on deployment and you wake up in the middle of the night and you check your email...more than once before you fall back asleep."

"... your civilian friends think you're crazy when you say "Oh, he's only going to be gone six months this time, that's not so bad."

"... you were once the shyest person on the earth and then you married your military member and now it is life or death to be outgoing! (well not really death, but you would be really lonely)."

"... you have 2 anniversaries: the Justice of the Peace anniversary and your "wedding" anniversary."

"... you ALWAYS buy insurance when traveling because plans change."

"... you long for the stench of their gear...it might be nasty but it means they're home."

"... if you spend more time away from your guy than with him."

"... you have three jobs on your resume for the past two years."

"... you ALWAYS have a current Power of Attorney on hand."

"... you know your spouse's social security number better than your own. (I am constantly confusing the two these days.)"

"... if you're a single parent, but married."

"... you refer to everyone not carrying a military ID card as a civilian."

"... your toddler knows the word "commissary."

"... you celebrate holidays based on duty schedules."

"... you go weeks, sometimes months without seeing or talking to your husband."

"... you have an expired Texas license, with a Florida address, and you live in North Dakota."

"... you answer your phone for any unknown number at all hours of the night or early in the morning because your husband is calling you."

"... you're talking to one of your best friends, who's coming to visit you in a month, and you keep telling her: "Remember to bring your driving license. You can't even see my house without your ID - they'll ask for it at the gate."

"... you tear up when you hear "Proud to Be An American," even though you've heard it 50 times by now."

Every SINGLE one of these are so true!

Lord, it's me again.

Dear Lord,

I am coming to you in prayer again. I wanted to make it public this time so if anyone would like to pray with me I would appreciate them all. I am praying for a friend of mine, but you already know that. I've never met her, but we are military wives and that in itself is enough. Her family is really going through a hard time right now, God. It's her littlest boy...I know, you know him all too well. You know the hairs on his head, what lies in his heart, all the problems he is having. God, her family has been though so much and still she praises you. I have no idea how she goes about day to day with all that she is dealing with. You are there with them everyday, helping them. I'm asking you God to lift up her little boy. Please Lord, help them in only ways that you can. Put your hand down on him and help him Lord. Give them answers, give them wisdom, give them comfort. I know you are already there, sitting beside this little boy, holding this mother's hand, helping them cope, but I just wanted to pray again. There is no such thing as too much prayer, right? This little boy has been on my heart all day today and I just wish there were something that I could do. I don't think there is so I will continue to pray. Thank you Lord, Amen.

It isn't over yet.

I checked facebook last night and saw it, "Osama Bin Laden is Dead" I than turned on the news and watched the live coverage of President Obama's speech about our victory. Everyone's reaction was about the same, a general feel of triump.

People were celebrating, People were remembering 911, People were praising our Military.

May 1st Prayer...Now I lay me down to sleep...one less terrorist this world does keep...with all my heart I give my thanks...to those in uniform regardless of ranks...you serve our country and serve it well...with humble hearts your stories tell...so as I rest my weary eyes...while freedom rings our flag still flies...you give your all, do what you must...with God we live and God we trust
Amen.

I am thinking of my husband who is deployed, I am thinking of the other men and women who are currently deployed. What will this mean now? I am so proud to be an American and a military wife, and I am so proud of my husband and all the troops, but we have to remember he was a martyr. He had followers. This is a great time for our Nation, but I fear we have more trials that lay ahead.

Justice has finally been served.

But it isn't over yet.

An Angel Never Dies

Today is my due date...April 27th, 2011 Today I should be holding my brand new baby boy or girl, I should be anxiously waiting to tell Jake what 'it' is since he wasn't able to be home for the birth, I should be introducing T and S to their newest sibling. I should be looking into those little blue eyes and thinking this is Heaven. I should be seeing who they resemble the most, wondering what they're gonna look like as they get older. I should be telling everyone the name, how much they weighed, compare it to my other chunky babies, I should be starting to breastfeed again, changing newborn diapers, pulling out the sleepers and onesies. But I'm not... Instead it's just another day, no one even knows.

If I was seeing a counselor, they'd probably say something about living for the future and moving on from the past. I still shouldn't be thinking of the 'should haves, would haves or could haves'. I know this, but my heart still feels this way...Hallmark should make cards for times like these. They could say "Remembering Estimated Due Dates" they'd be blue, pink, yellow, or green with shooting stars, moons, and rainbows and say things like "Today probably hurts more than childbirth, I'm sorry."

We were due to meet today, The pain I feel, I cannot say. I would of loved to hold you tight, and cuddle you to sleep at night. Instead I'll hold you in my heart, and from there you'll not depart.

An Angel Never Dies

Don’t let them say I wasn’t born,

That something stopped my heart

I felt each tender squeeze you gave,

I’ve loved you from the start.

Although my body you can’t hold

It doesn’t mean I’m gone

This world was worthy, not of me

God chose that I move on.

I know the pain that drowns your soul,

What you are forced to face

You have my word, I’ll fill your arms,

Someday we will embrace.

You’ll hear that it was meant to be,

God doesn’t make mistakes

But that wont soften your worst blow,

Or make your heart not ache.

I’m watching over all you do,

Another child you’ll bear

Believe me when I say to you,

That I am always there.

There will come a time, I promise you,

When you will hold my hand,

Stroke my face and kiss my lips

And then you’ll understand.

Although I’ve never breathed your air,

Or gazed into your eyes

That doesn’t mean I never was,

An Angel never dies